The couple walked in right on time, looking a little shy. This was a familiar demeanor for him, but this time there was something different about him. I invited them in, asking if they’d like to talk for a bit. So we all sat down for chitchat. Starting off with ‘How are you?’, ‘What can I do for you?’ and ‘Tell me about your relationship.’ We were soon engaged in an in-depth conversation about sex, relationships and culture.

I turned the floor over to the redheaded, soon-to-be in charge beauty, and it didn’t take long for her expression to change from trepidatious to excited and curious. As she explained where she was coming from, her past experiences, her epiphanies, and her hopes for the future, her eyes became almost wild. As she continued, the difference in him became more and more evident. When I’d seen him in the past, he’d seemed shy to me. However this time, a radiance shown through his soft smile and downward gaze, and this radiance was clearly connected to the untethered woman sitting next to him.

 

She explained that they had started dating not more than a few weeks ago, but that time was different with them and it felt like so much longer. He had been upfront about liking “the weird stuff”, and had instantly gotten her attention. She had previously suppressed her sexuality, but had recently gotten in touch with it. She had a look and feel of someone who had recently been reborn. She wanted to learn everything.

 

So the three of us played and had a wonderful time. I was half in Dom mode and half in instructor mode. They shared frequent, beautiful moments together that were clearly based on connection, love and respect, and when it was all over, the two of them finished the session exquisitely, with me as the spectator.

 

This is something that any couple can do, if they are able to prioritize themselves, each other and their sexual health. There are many great books, workshops and conferences out there, and I am available for coaching session as well.