Below is an article, written by one of my beloved slaves, about a good approach on how to find and keep a Mistress. If you are new to BDSM, this is an excellent website to learn from. When you are ready for the real thing, you can contact me.

-Katherine

When attempting to attract a Professional Mistress, think of the applicable rules of etiquette, commonly listed on her website, as a guide to ways of pleasing her. The general rules such as do not touch her without permission, speak respectfully to her, and obey her, are very easy ways to establish yourself as a respectful submissive or client. Specific rules that a particular Mistress has are further ways to show that you value her. Be grateful that she has shared this information with you. Make the effort to follow those rules and your time together will be exceedingly more rewarding.

A Mistress’ website itself will usually list the basic behavior that is expected of you. This is important information. Yes, you should follow the rules because it is expected; because it is The Rules. But also important is this: follow the rules because they are a gift to you. A pathway to happiness for you to follow. Obey the rules and your time with this Mistress will be vastly more enjoyable and rewarding.

How to Address Her

A common rule that will be listed is which titles can be used while addressing her. Mistress Katherine requires me to call her Mistress or Goddess. It’s her rule and I’m happy to follow it. For me though, it goes far beyond rule-following. The words have become shorthand for so much more. My Mistress is strong, superior to me, intelligent, powerful, compassionate, the one-who-I-belong-to, and a long list of incredible characteristics. All those things are captured in the word ‘Mistress’. When I say ‘Mistress’ to her, I’m significantly paraphrasing her greatness and her importance to me.

I also address her as ‘Goddess’. I believe she is a Goddess. Theologians and mythologists might not agree with me, but I know she is. I find speaking the word to be awe-inspiring. The meaning ranges from, “my purpose is to worship you” to “this is all that is important in this universe and she will be called ‘Goddess’.” It’s a great privilege to be allowed to call her ‘Goddess’. I cannot imagine a life without my Mistress.

Other Important Rules

Another common rule of etiquette is, Do Not Touch. As your mother told you when you were a little tyke, look with your eyes, not with your hands. Mistresses respect themselves and their bodies (if she doesn’t, find one that does). Don’t touch without permission. There will be no-touch zones. Respect those zones. Don’t ask to touch areas that are off limits. It’s disrespectful and greedy. If a Mistress has allowed you her time, show that you appreciate what she is doing for you by focusing on what she wants, not what you want. Asking for things that she has categorically refused is a poor use of your time. Spend this time pleasing her on her terms.

When corresponding with a potential Mistress, consider whether emailing or a consultation is the most appropriate approach. If you choose email, keep messages short, unless she specifies otherwise. Keep email threads short. If you need more information or more time to commit, request a consultation session. This is a great way to get to know the Mistress and to get your questions answered. More importantly, it also shows the her that you understand the importance of her time, increasing your likelihood of finding, and keeping a Mistress.

Her Time, Effort, and Skills are Valuable

Mistresses are very busy–their time and skills are valuable. A great Mistress know what a sub needs; knows how to get the most from the sub. She can direct a sub’s behavior so that her wants are met and the sub feels fulfilled. Mistresses are also some of the most business savvy people I know. Do remember, they have family, hobbies, and a personal life outside working hours, too. Do not waste her time, and pay her for it with appreciation.

Mistress Katherine – as I’m sure others do – spends a lot of time ensuring clients receive a rewarding and satisfying experience. As with any busy professional, keep the communication short and on point. Answer any questions truthfully and completely. These questions are being asked to fulfill your needs and also for safety reasons. It may seem uncomfortable to answer some of the personal questions—especially if this is new to you. You are not being judged, you are being embraced. Your kinks and desires are valid, you deserve to derive happiness from them, and exploring them is healthy and exciting.

But her valuable time is limited. There are many of you, and very few of them.

It Will be Worth it

Our lives are better because of Mistresses. We need mistresses. Our lives are deeply enriched by their presence.  Personally, I’m a better person and a better sub because of my Mistress; my life as a whole is better. I recommend you show your gratitude by not only following her rules and the basic terms etiquette, but also yourself a favor and treat Mistress’ and other special women in your life like goddesses. Follow the rules, and more. You’ll be happier for it, and if you’re lucky, she may decide to keep you around.

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–puppy

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